Is your child being bullied?

Is your child being bully?

Bullying has and unfortunately will always be, a common issue in society. Here are some points to consider for ‘arming’ your children with the tools of self confidence, self-esteem, better communication skills and more

1. Use confident body language

One of the best ways to prevent bullying is to be sure your children have a healthy self-esteem and carry themselves with confidence. Being self-confident involves having good posture, walking with a purpose and making eye contact with those around them. By contrast, if children slouch and keep their eyes averted, this makes them a target for bullying. Be sure to work with your children on these techniques. And remind them that even when they do not feel confident, like walking into a crowded lunchroom for the first time, they should walk like they do have confidence.

2. Stay in a group

Bullies are less likely to target someone who is with a group of friends. Be sure your child knows that it is best to go places in groups, especially into bullying hot spots at school. If your child does not have a group of friends, work with him to develop friends. Friendship is a protective factor against bullying. Even having just one close friend can go a long way in preventing bullying.

3. Trust your gut

Teach your kids to be aware of their surroundings. For instance, teach them to put their mobile phones away and to look around them. Is there a group of rough-looking boys on the corner? Is there a strange car at the bus stop? Being aware of what’s going on around them, not only will help protect your child from bullying, but it’s also an important life skill. Looking around and noticing what is happening can help them avoid being mugged or attacked as an adult as well!

4. Focus on flight, not fight

Too many times, kids don’t realize that when things look like they could head the wrong direction, that they should just turn around and walk away. Stress that it is not cowardly to walk away. Instead, remind them that it takes courage to walk away from a situation that is escalating. It is best if your children leave a situation before it even gets out of hand. Remind them that trusting their instincts is essential in identifying when a situation is about to take a turn for the worse.

5. Use a strong voice

If your child does find himself / herself in a potential bullying situation, sometimes using a confident voice and being assertive will diffuse the situation. Many times, bullies are looking for an easy target and a strong confident voice will sometimes cause bullies to back off. Have your children practice speaking assertively and in a strong voice so that when they are in a difficult situation, it will come naturally.

6. Keep your eyes on the exit

Sometimes kids will get into a situation where they can’t walk away immediately. Maybe their path is blocked or they feel it isn’t safe to make a run for it. In this case, they should still look for an exit and when the opportunity presents itself, make a break for it. Remind them that it is not a sign of weakness to run from a bully. In fact, it takes courage and strength.

7. Attract attention

Make sure your kids know that it is acceptable and encouraged to make a lot of noise if someone is threatening them or hurting them. Not only should they be using a strong voice, but they also can yell or scream. The idea is to scare off a bully by attracting a lot of attention to the situation. This tactic also is important if the child is being attacked by a stranger during an attempted abduction. Being quiet is never a good idea.

Many times, diffusing bullying situations simply involves knowing how to respond to a situation in a calm and confident manner before it ever gets to physical bullying.

As a parent myself I understand the important role we have in preparing our children for the sometimes unpleasant issues and challenges the world throws at them!

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